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Seven Dating Tips: Online Dating And E-mails
By Sara Musfeldt
You both winked and he wrote an e-mail saying "What's up?" so now what do you do? You can do more than one thing, but whatever you do, don't write back "What's up with you?"
There are seven things you should avoid or be sure to do in your e-mails. This is a list of them.
He can start the conversation, but so can you. Show initiative and start the conversation. In life being passive never pays so if you're interested write him and say so. You could write something like: "I'll tell you the boldest thing I've done if you tell me yours. I'm interested in getting to know you."
Ask questions. Lots of them. Dating someone who talks too much about him or herself can be a huge turnoff. Wait to be asked questions before you go into the "About Me" speech. He saw your profile so he already knows a little bit about you. If you ask your date why he lived in Japan or why David Sedaris is his favorite author, chances are he'll be psyched that you're asking.
He should be guessing about you, but not for too long. He may start looking for his next match if you wait too long to return an e-mail. You will lose your intrigue if you don't write him back within a few days telling him about the boldest thing you've done especially since he told you his. If he asks you out or for your number, quickly respond.
Avoid an e-mail affair. When you log into your e-mail it's exciting to see three
e-mails from the interesting, new guy who gives great e-mail. It's disappointing, though, to meet Mr. Great E-mail Guy and have zero attraction to him. Instead of falling for the online version of him, meet him after the first five or so e-mails so you won't be bummed to lose your e-mail lover.
Avoid copying and pasting. My friend sent the same e-mail to all of her matches. Once she sent the same e-mail to someone twice AND she forgot to change the name at the top. She obviously didn't hear from him again. It may be tempting, but it's too easy to make mistakes.
Who talks more, men or women? I've seen studies that prove men talk more than women, but I know from experience that some men are turned off by a chatty Patty. Keep your e-mails to two short paragraphs until he writes you a long e-mail. If he ever does, then you know he has patience for chatter.
Send an e-mail after the first date. I think it's nice to get a follow up e-mail even if I'm not interested. It's a polite thing to do. About the Author: Sara Musfeldt has a website filled with dating stories and dating profile tips for everyone. Sara has also produced an online dating advice to help singles everywhere find a date.
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